Not that you asked, but while it’s on my mind, I’d like to offer this statement: Accentuate the positive to eliminate the negative.
Kids with a fuzzy view on morality and right from wrong are always gettin’ into sh**. If all they hear is stop, no, don’t do that, get down, etcetera, their world will be dark and negative. So will their self image. Trust me, I was a problem child myself. Luckily, my parents were/are amazing.
I’ve found my children who have difficulty determining the difference between detrimental and positive behavior make better choices when they are praised for the good they do with enthisiasm, rather than only receiving the stern reprimands that are the more common choice of discipline.
The “troublemakers”, myself included, hear the bad things about themselves much more often than they hear about the good.
Adding positive remarks to the corrections in their behavior being made helps kids, kids like mine and kids like I was, realize that they aren’t bad people.
Ok, I’m f***ing DONE! I promise.